How To Tell Friends & Family I've Been Made Redundant?
For many of us it can be hard telling our loved ones that we’re being made redundant. But why?
Well there is no definitive answer to this question. We are all made up differently and therefore have different reasons why we may struggle to tell others we care about the news.
Many people we have spoken to said they feel they have let someone close to them down, their partner, children or parents. This however in reality couldn’t be further from the truth.
The first thing you need to do is realize that you being made redundant isn’t due to something you’ve done wrong. It is an unfortunate circumstance you find yourself in. The chances are you had little to no impact for the reason why this has happened.
Next, don’t feel like you’ve let anyone down. To put it plain and simply, 'You haven’t let anyone down'.
Yes it can be hard telling our loved ones the news, but it is a conversation you need to have with them. And sooner rather than later.
I think you’ll be pretty amazed just how supportive those around you will be.
Being made redundant isn’t anything to be ashamed off. I bet most people you speak to will have been involved in it some way, either directly or know someone close to them who’s been through it. They will probably have some great advice for you.
The best way to deal with hurdles in your life is to talk about them. And who better to talk to than those that truly care about you.
There is no right or wrong way to tell someone. However, there are a few points you should try and remember when communicated the message:
- 1. Remember to be factual. It can be harder to do than you may think. Most of us when telling our loved ones are in the very early stages. Shock, denial and frustration are all very possible feelings. Sometimes we have a tendency to focus on certain parts. So try and tell the whole story and focus on the facts rather than assumptions. This will also help you deal with the news.
- 2. Try and tell the most important people as quickly as you can. The chances are the news will affect them also, so it’s only fair. Plus the quicker you’re able to share the news, the quicker solutions will start to come through.
- 3. If you’re sitting down with people to tell them, have all the documents you were given to hand, or at least know where they all are. It’s a natural reaction for those loved ones to ask to see the letters. This helps them process the news. Don’t be annoyed if they ask this. It may also help you as you may have missed something that another highlights.
Overall, you just need to remember that this isn’t your fault. That things will get better. And that those that care for you will undoubtedly support and help you. Talk to them, open up and deal with it as a team, not on your own.